Alot of people judge others harshly when they don't behave like the poster boy or girl of relationships. My bf? lets just say, I tried posting about him a year ago, people told me to run. Our relationship? Didn't start off as very orthodox at all, but because I knew the love was there, I did my best to not let others judgments affect me. And if I had, we wouldn't be where we are today.



Idk your bf, you do, but first thought that struck me when you described him and mentioned he doesn't even ask how your day went was "He sounds socially inept"

Idk, most of the really academic types I know are socially stupid.

They come across as cold and even rude, when it just doesn't occur to them to be polite or seem interested in anything other than their current focus... My niece comes to mind, we always thought she had really bad manners, but poor girl is just plain clueless. She's older now tho (20) and hanging out with us regularly, so she's catching on.

Anyway, I didn't mean to ramble.

Young sex isn't magical, sex is an art form we develop over time with lots of practice. So if neither of you have much or any experience outside of this relationship, I wouldn't put that on my list of worries. It's fixable.

You flip flop between being sure he loves you and being scared you're being used (I know this feeling all too well)... You also say you're unsure why he would even like you... I think that plays a big roll in your fear.

You mentioned that you've tried to talk to him, try harder.

Email him if it will create a smoother path to communication. Don't assume shyt and act on it.

Once you know for sure, then you can make a decision with conviction.

Don't write him off on account of him not being like others guys, give him a chance BECAUSE he's not.


Talk to him, find out what you need to know and then take if from there.