I have been divorced since 1995. I have raised my sons on my own (with extreme help from family) and their father did not partake in the parenting scene. I have dated and was engaged at one point, but, it seemed that the men I dated did not seem confident when they realized that I was strong and intelligent. They loved to be needed. If they saw that I was independent, they figured that was good enough reason to end a relationship.

Since then, I have given up on any desire to be with a man. my cynicism has grown and I am beginning to feel that males are insecure and childish. I know that there are many mature men and some are devoted to relationships but do they feel threatened if the woman earns more, learns more or is promoted more than they are? Please help me. I would like to keep my optimism that some men are not threatened by these things.