I'm very happy that for you, GreenMoss, being an avoidant has something possitive for you. If I understood well, it's the same as Jade says.
I'm not so optimistic. I want to live. I want to do well but I also want to make a fool of myself without worring about failure. I want to be nice but I also want to be a ***** when it's necessary.
I can joking around the godnesses of being avoidant but there are only jokes.
Said that, it's better to think in a possitive way.
Having my issues and going to therapy helped me to see people in a more possitive way, less inflexible...and it's a great relief bc that way I see myself with much more understanding.