thanks for the reminder - I'd already forgotten thanks all for the responses. I do need to get going on that. The gal who word-of-mouth referred this T to me (was hers for 20 years and sometimes she still sees her) is worried that this isn't a good match for me. The T is really quite old and losing her touch. I am certain she was a really good t in the past. Sadly she should have retired about 5 years ago. She's not only forgetting things, but breaking boundaries on protocol - like telling me her past trauma (not in great detail, but still) and her illnesses and her upcoming medical tests. It's been a long year of therapist shopping and I am tired. She's intuitive and can see "us" behind my eyes - a rare trait, and I guess that is why I stay. Starting over every 8-12 sessions is a real pain. I know this isn't permanent... and then I'll have to start over anyway. grrr.