Quote:
Originally Posted by LarryCopano
I went thru menopause and I used to have a very HIGH libido, but afterwards it was nil. It was like I went from 60mph to 0 in one year.  I'm currently seeing a endocrinologist to see if putting hormones back in my body will help, but so far the results are not long lasting. It's as if libido is dependent on more than hormones. Really, the doctors DON'T know what causes libido. All I know is I used to get horny for no reason, and now even with hormone replacement therapy I'm lucky to get horny at all.
Anyone else have experience with this? And did you find anything that helps. |
I know many women who have gone through this...short version...
with women sex is two fold... a physical component (ovulation\release of body hormones/chemicals and thickening of the uterus that make a woman physically ready to have a baby) and the mental component (thoughts about the one they want to have sex with/fantasies)
biologically, with out ovulation and the body readying itself for a baby theres no need for the sexual urges (or as you call it get horny) so a woman who has gone through menopause has to train their self to understand their sexual needs and urges are going to be less urgent, less intense, less needing immediate gratification, than before menopause.
that said a woman can train their self to rely more on the mental components rather than the physical through the use of toys, masturbation, fantasizing, planning romantic time together with the significant other, roll playing, erotic movies (someone I know absolutely loves the intimate scene in the movie Ghost. another person I know uses porn, others I know write their own erotic stories) This in turn triggers the physical side of feeling horny/wet/orgasms....
my point is there are many different ways to mentally stimulate into achieving the same emotional sexual feelings as before menopause that can trigger the body into physically reacting now that ovulation is out of the picture.
my suggestion talk with your treatment providers, they will be able to help you find the right ways to get things going again for you.