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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I'm usually all for the Go With Your Gut advice buuuut, in this instance the OP's concerns appear more internal (feeling unsure, insecure, feeling beneath him, wondering why he even likes her)....
So if I've understood correctly, her gut feeling is telling her to run based on not feeling good enough for him, and I have to respectfully disagree and again encourage her to talk to her guy about what's bugging her, before making such a decision.
It's all good to cut your losses and run, but relationships actually take work. Even the good ones.They're not rosy and shiny all the time, so misery is expected during tough times.
Of course if the time spent miserable outweighs the happy times, you definitely want to seek greener pastures.
Idk, I guess I just place a high value on my interpersonal relationships and don't give up so easily, which admittedly in the past yes, had me holding on to the wrong friends and 1 VERY!!! wrong man. But with time came experience and I learned who was worth investing in.
OP, regardless of what you decide, remember this.
A good strong healthy relationship requires communication. If its not there for whatever reason (eg. I have an extremely hard time discussing my feelings verbally) AND neither are willing to find ways to communicate, well then the relationship either won't last, or it wont be a happy one.
Communication is key
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Of course one needs to communicate to their partner. I personally never said she must run because of her feelings, but rather address it.
I don't think people need to run because of gut feelings but they shouldn't ignore it or stick around because of love as that is never enough. I also think everyone has different standards and I wouldn't advice op to stay or run because so and so did. We all have different standards and expectations, we all have different understanding of what's good relationship mean.
What's good enough for some might not be acceptable for others. If she is unhappy she needs to address it
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