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Originally Posted by PaulGauguin
Thanks for this post.
My son is going through a lot of these issues (he's had three jobs in the past couple of months) You can see the anxiety build as he goes to work each day. I would say to you what I say to him. We all are plagued with feelings of doubt and inadequacy concerning new jobs and stressful jobs. The difference is to some that it can be overwhelming. It is not silly at all and nothing to be ashamed of. My son is a good person and a capable person as is anyone with two college degrees. You are seeing a therapist and I think that's a great step. He's had a couple of false starts with therapists so he is resistant and I believe he is ashamed and he won't discuss it. I'm just trying to encourage him now. I wish you luck and hope you find the help you need. Everybody has an important contribution to make in this world.
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For me, I think it has to do with my self esteem. I feel like I'm in my 30s now and should have my life figured out. I left a "decent" full time job, only to "fail" at two more when I tried to better myself. I haven't forgiven myself or gotten over leaving the job I originally had. My self esteem is pretty low. So it's kind of a vicious circle. My therapist recommended starting small with a part time job to gain some confidence, and I think I'm gonna try that. I am lucky that the first doctor I found turned out to be very helpful and supportive, and non-judgemental. It sounds like your son is probably experiencing the same issues I am, with self doubt, anxiety and depression. I wish him and you the best! I applaud you for not yelling at him, and supporting him, it can be hard to know what to say, but having people supporting me and not bringing me down further has made a lot of difference!