I had gut feelings about my H before I got married & ignored them & ended up saying for 33 years in a really BAD marriage as we ended up with our daughter & then when I finally was at the point to get out, I couldn't financially I was trapped.

I married him because I thought his IQ & his college degree would make him successful that my father wasn't. I wanted so much to marry someone who wasn't like my father & ended up marrying someone who was just like him only with an education.

But his social issues actually messed up any education he had. He was always struggling with management issues & the issues I saw before the marriage constantly were the issues that caused horrible problems in the marriage & that was his attitude about how smart he was....but he didn't have a bit of common sense & in the marriage, I basically had to take care of everything because in reality the only thing he was good at was math & reading his sci fi books.

Yes, he was sure he loved me......but I realized that in reality, I didn't respect him because of the issues & LOVE can't grow where there isn't respect. Not only that but in the 33 years of marriage he was totally incapable of connecting.

Came to realize only after I left him & was doing some research to understand what was the problem in the marriage that Asperger's was what we were dealing with....undiagnosed, but it was the only thing that perfectly explained 100 % all the issues that created problems in the marriage.

Be wise. Know what you are really getting into & if it's NOT something you want to tolerate for the rest of your life....don't go there in the first place.