There are many types of abuse such as physical, emotional and mental, that one may have experienced as a child. It is not possible to reliably take memories and assign them as fact, but what can be done with a therapist that does specialize in surviving abuse is to process the memories and find ways to heal the wounds.

Many people that are abusers may be in denial and justifying whatever they did as appropriate. Assigning blame is not part of my healing process but I did express those types of emotions to a therapist, NOT to the people who I perceived to have acted inappropriately.

I think of people who abused me as strangers that I try to relate to if i have to for the first time. It is not easy. But usually visits are short and I have reading material and can retreat to bathroom or sleeping quarters to recover from rough times. I say less not wanting to stir up the fires and wrath of others.

It is not about blaming it is about doing what it takes to heal the wounds and not reopen them in the presence of people that could trigger me. I also recognize that these people were probably survivors of abuse themselves.