My t also hasn't ever wished me a happy birthday. She helps me out in wonderful ways while, at the same time, she there are things I know or assume she would never do. I think hugging or touching is off limits. She's also never said directly that she cares about me, I don't think that will change.

I guess we all have ts with different boundaries, limitations and comfort. One will help out in one way while another might do something helpful in another way.