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Originally Posted by tearsinabottle
It only says we are to forgive and pray for our enemies. So I do think too, like you say, that we dont have to be in contact with them. I dont have contact with him because of this reason, but because something in me feels sad not being in contact with him. I have many times wondered if I mess with my own healing or to be able to move on in life as long as there is contact, but I take it day by day and put my trust in God. Thats all I can do now.
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Having pity I've learned differs from having compassion. And having pity isn't love, even in a platonic sense. I only communicate with my ex as it relates to the children. And even, at that, it's limited. Sometimes, I may expand on a topic, such as dealing with my family of origin, only because I have come to trust it will be a positive for me discussion in the sense that it's supportive with historical knowledge.
He also didn't dismiss how affected I am overall by losing my mom, he'd lost his years prior. I trust, however, that he cannot comprehend how torn I feel on various holidays over my loss, so I don't expect him to. And I don't go there with him.