I understand you are in contact with your ex concerning the children. Its good you can be able to expand talking about family of origin and that you trust it will be positive. I would believe your ex was not narcissistic and this is why its possible to get positive support and why he doesnt dismiss you. Narcissists or abusers often cant se past their own noses.

I have both pity and compassion for my xhusband. I have compassion for him as he lost his father and pity for him for his narcissistic traits/disorder.