SpringStar, "knowing the road rules so you don't crash" - I like that analogy.

Yes, we do need to sit down and talk. I guess he thinks because we've talked about it once, that he doesn't have to talk about it any more. Some men are so thick~! I need him to understand what his actions have done and need to know why. I don't accept his first answer as to why. It was the easy way out, IMO. I don't believe he was honest with me or himself.

And learning to trust him again . . . what a mountain that will be to climb. He has no idea the impact his affair has made. And then to find out that it wasn't a little fling, that it lasted 1 1/2 years!

Is it possible to say that that was a different time in our lives and this is a new time and where we go from here - will be determined by the rules we use and the respect we give each other?

In KIndness, SBD