Dalila,

I understand your pain and yearning. I always wished my mother would be the person that I wanted her to be. I've been in counseling for 16 years and it started with dealing with sexual abuse by grandfather.

I have to say, dealing with my mother issues has taken alot longer. I intellectually know that my mother is limited and she is the best she can be and that it has nothing to do with me. But, the little girl in me still wishes that she was the mom I want.

I wish I could say something that would make this go away but there really isnt. It's just trying to come to acceptance and knowing it's not your stuff it's her stuff.



Tranquility