Jumping in here from a male point of view.

What you need is romance. So many men don't know how to romance their women or, woman in their life.

News flash guys.......it's an all day thing. If you expect to get any and have a good time you must learn to romance. Too many times guys expect her to be ready at a moments notice. What did you do all day? Did you touch her at all, did you kiss her? Did you try to grab that backside, sneek a peek at her in the shower? Tell her she is hot?? Guys, listen up....women respond to words, learn how to talk to her. Lose the macho bs and be a real man. Romance is a conquest, learn the persuit.

Ladies, don't be so easy to get. Be a little hard to get, guys love the thrill of the persuit.

Listen, I've been maried to the same woman for nearly 35 years. Our sex life is HOT!!! She always looks nice and when she is ready for loving it is great.

So many women say that they can't orgasm. It is really a shame. If your man is short on the draw, (getsoff fast), tell him what you need. Lots of foreplay and it starts early in the morning for a great night in the sack.

Ladies, how do you feel about yourself? Do you take care of yourself?

Guys, are you in good shape? Do you have stamina, staying power? If not, do a lot of foreplay. Go oral on her.

Ladies, make sure your clean down there. The same goes for the guys. Be clean, treat her right, romance her everyday and start early.

Have a date with her. Call her in the day and say let's meet for lunch. Have that lunch with her then go back to work.
Make a clandestan meeting at a nice hotel in the area for
"who knows what". Play like your lovers. I call my wife and ask if her husband is home and can I come over? Sometimes I call and ask if "he" is there, meaning her boyfriend. She usually goes along with my game and we have a great time.

I hope this provides some good info for both guys and gals.
I am saddened over the situation of some of the folks here.
everyone needs to find love. Friends with benefits is good too but, there is nothing like romance with spouse/partner.