I also forgot to add that when you first find out you have PTSD or complex PTSD, it is normal to read and research all you can about it.That is a good thing. But if you start consuming yourself with it (and I don't think you are but many do ) to where you are intellectualizing it so much, that doing that action is actually a form of numbing your pain which is also a part of PTSD. I am a researcher on everything, whether it is my PTSD or not. But I had to learn to feel again, and I am still working on that.
Eventually you will have to face the emotions and process them and the trauma in order to heal and put those triggers behind you. That part of your brain isn't the same as the part that wants to intellectualize things because it feels safer than the feeling part. It seems like numbing takes on two ways, either intellectiualizing the PTSD or completely avoiding it as much as possible. If you don't process the traumas, the numbing will not last, and the memories will keep surfacing and in a vicious circle, and keep bringing your PTSD triggers and symptoms to the front, almost like they just happened, or actually feel worse than the first time. That in itself of not knowing when things are going to "hit" again makes the PTSD even worse because you want to start to isolate yourself. While you will never forget your traumas or the details of the traumas, (unless you take one of those new PTSD drugs they are testing in the military) treatment will help you stop your body from reacting to the traumas physically and emotionally. Talk therapy will probably not ever be enough.
I have done that numbing stuff before and I found the only way to stop the triggers was to work directly with them head on. If not with EMDR, with some sort of desensitization therapy technique. You have to be brave, but it will be worth it because you will start to live again and PTSD won't keep you hostage in your body. This is my experience, and I have been working many years on this (I've had multiple traumas over many decades) and steadily healed more and more. Trauma victims have choices now, unlike a few decades before where the traumas consumed them and have taken away all of their life and future. Nobody has to remain hostage to PTSD anymore.
But you have to have a good T and have a lot of patience, bravely and be ready and stable enough to work through these things. It sucks, but it beats the alternative.
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