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Old Jun 01, 2015, 02:27 AM
xrxex xrxex is offline
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Originally Posted by healingme4me View Post
That's a tough situation, to be in.

There's a lot of focus on the outside self. Could be the culture she was raised in, where outside appearance matters more than everything else, a culture of objectification, perhaps? When dealing with such constructs, unless the person, your gf in this case, learns to love themselves, she's truly setting herself up to sabotage the relationship.

Not certain what advice to give to get her to see that. Maybe talk about fear of eventually pushing you away, because insecure behaviours will wear down a partner and breed resentment.

Maybe couples counseling?
I thought about the talk about eventually pushing me away, but I'm worried that may only cause more harm than good. I'll try to work up the subject without being bluntly obvious and see how it turns out.