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Originally Posted by LarryCopano
When I say horny I talking about the physical excitement that used to happen in my body regardless of what I was thinking about. It is not like an emotion. I could force horniness by looking a porn, or touching my partners body or fantasizing, but I am now even having a hard time doing that.
When I say top or bottom I am not referring to a position. I am gay. In mean top in a gay male way. The active person has to really feel it to do it, while the passive person can start out not really feeling it, but can warm up after some time. That is just how we are.
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I see here where I live horny is a mental feeling, mental sexual urge, mental thoughts of sex, the desire to have sex... our word for the physical excitement that you are talking about, here in my location is called arousal. it is normal for people to go through periods of their life to not be able to be aroused, if it wasnt people wouldnt be able to control their sexual activity, they would be aroused 24/7. the human body and brain have to have down times in order to recharge the body so to speak.
it may be that you are trying so hard to make your body go into arousal state that its fighting against you, kind of like the saying enough is enough, got to give it a rest.
my suggestion dont worry so much about trying to put your body into a physical state of arousal. if your body is meant to enter that physical state it will do so when its ready.
another suggestion...things like stress, anxiety, lack of sleep, medications and may other factors can affect whether a person can achieve a physical state of arousal. maybe talking with your treatment providers about this will help in discovering why your body at this moment will not enter that physical state that you are trying to achieve.