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Originally Posted by Macd123
Okay, so this has been a huge issue with me throughout my existence. Seems that every time I get remotely close to a female (doesn't happen much) I tumble into an attachment. What happens is I'm really insecure about romantic involvement (yikes) and if they were interested it usually dissipates and I'm alone again. In certain situations I would really enjoy having the person as a friend - my experience seems to confirm that this ain't gonna happen. So because you have different physical characteristics you lose a friend. Of course, there is always the attachment issue which may be hard to control in a non-romantic relationship. And there's also the boyfriend, husband, etc. that makes this situation really sticky if not suicidal. I really like women but I can't seem to keep them in my life - it's always a fifteen minutes of fame thing and they're gone. I do have a close guy friend but it ain't the same. Women just offer a very different and refreshing view of things. Thanks I'm done rambling now.
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In my personal experience, platonic friendships
are possible, but only if both involved understand there will never be a chance to turn it into a romantic relationship.
However, this understanding is often left unspoken, and this is the problem with platonic friendships. Person ‘A’ believes that the friendship will eventually progress into a relationship; person ‘B’ believes it will stay the same. When person ‘A’ makes an advance and person ‘B’ declines, it causes friction.
This situation happened to me last year. A dear friend (whom I’d been close with for two and a half years) wanted to begin a relationship with me. I declined, and when I began dating someone else a month later, he walked out of my life.
Platonic friendships are possible, but there has to be a clear understanding that it can go no further. Even then, romantic feelings have a tendency to surface.