Hi Direction, Sorry I am just now posting after about a week. I've been working alot of O.T..

I suggested the Seperation agreement with him and asked that I talk to my attorney about it of which I did. Unfortunetly the attorney says it can be for only up to 6 weeks ! I was shocked about that.

Once I told my STBX he said "forget it, I just moved into my apartment 2 weeks ago and I am not ready to even consider getting back together right now"

So it seems he likes his newfound freedom because I am not there to remind him about his drinking I guess. So later he called me back and left a message saying alot of hurtful things including I dont want to be married to you anymore.

That really hurt but I know deep down this is for the best for both of us. I 've had a week now to do alot of soul searching and yes granted I have made alot of mistakes too but I realize he really isn't ready to settle down either or otherwise he wouldn't have been out running around and been home instead. I think he was excited about our relationship at first and I was the one he would marry after 10 yrs of being single but I really don't think he was ready for the commitment.

Thanks for your help Direction. It was a shot anyway.
Terry