Hello Asylumgardens,

Thanks so much for your interesting post. Yes, I too grew up with both parents drinking. I remember all too well the fights the agruing, the crying. Too painful to look back. Thats why I cannot live with an alcoholic, much less a drug addict.

I feel for you, I can certaintly relate. So your parents divorced huh? My dad left my mom for a couple months but a couple years later my dad died of cancer and 9 months after that my mom died of cirhossis of the liver ( from drinking)

So, it really is painful. I hope your years ahead get better with your parents. So much damage has been done there.

My STBX is living on his own now. It will be interesting to see if he makes it on his own. He has never been responsible for bills etc... on his own. He hates dealing with that kind of stuff, he'd rather just focus on his drinking.
I wonder if he will drink more now than ever though.

I doubt if he finds anyone else that thier relationship will ever last more than a couple months because they will see what I see and run !!! hehe.

He told me we will get the divorce since it will only take 60 days and give ourselves some space and see where we are at in about 6 months or so. We'll that depends entirely on him and what he has accomplished about his drinking and drugs by then. He holds the key.

Thanks again for your post and advice. I am already there.
Terry