Hi Paul Gaugin. Sorry you are suffering as a caregiver to a child that does not seem to be committed to getting better. I have not heard of self medicating with alcohol or marijuana as a long term reliable and stable treatment. There are meds that help, but a psychiatrist would need to prescribe and the meds should not be combined with recreational drugs. Take care of yourself you don't get burned out. Setting limits might help only if he will abide by them. This is a question that a social worker for your son might answer unless he is involved with illegal activities that the social worker may be required to report.

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