Thanks for the replies! He is a police officer with extensive DWI/DUI training. That his his passion. He's worked nights his entire law enforcement career and has mentioned working a day shift as boring and horrible. But, in the same breath, tells me he'll "do it for me". Im scared if I do ever ask him if he'd work a day shift, he could become bitter about it. He had to work a day shift one week and was miserable. Would we just be trading unhappiness? I know my being alone and isolated magnifies and skews my perspective on that.

In the past, when he has done a favor for me or Ive needed to use his truck to haul one of my horses to the vet (I dont have a truck right now) he has always mentioned how I can repay him or what I owe him. Usually its something simple like a chore or watching one of his nephews for him, but if he expects repayment for doing something small, will he want something significant for going to days? He jokes sometimes I owe him a baby if we go to the country. That sort of debt makes me uncomfortable. Like Im obligated to give him a life! When Ive approached him about it he assures me its just a joke....but then brings it up again.

He is 9 years older than me, so sometimes it does seem he has a more permanent view on his lifestyle and choices.