hvert, yes...you're right. I do find myself sometimes questioning our compability. When we were dating and lived in separate houses, there was no question. Our interactions were limited to our time at MY house, in the country on my terms. We share the same values. Which is really important to me. I journal and look back at journals during that time and I was so in love and so happy. Which makes me think that on a compatibility level in terms of our personalities, we mesh well. At that time, we both wanted the same things too. But, then his house was done being built and some of his less favorable habits came to light.

I think its natural to question our compatibility. Because it is a realistic consideration we will, for example, need to start a family sooner than later. I am still at prime child bearing age but he is getting older and we will have to compromise on that.

The other day he even told me if I am NEVER comfortable having a family, he would rather spend his life with me than have a family. But I know its really important to him. In an ideal world, when I am living in an environment that is good for me, I would be too.

I do think I need to have a serious conversation with him about the future and compromises. Because, really, the scales are tipped too far in one direction. He works his same schedule. He gets support for his huge home he bought. He has his household chores done while he works. Haha. So, he can step up to the plate and bring something to the table as well! Heck, I even transferred to an office closer to home. I've basically changed my entire life to be with him. Which, to be fair, I KNEW I was doing. At the time, when I thought it over, I knew I would rather pursue this than have it die off just because he was moving in to a new home.

Thanks!!