Hi jumpinjivinjoe. Welcome to Psych Central. I am so sorry you are struggling with a relationship and family problem. The problem is that your gf may be fulfilling her native mother instinct of being drawn to a baby. Many woman instinctively are drawn to the baby.

It is a little freaky having her hang out with her ex for fear she may feel old attractions, but by keeping away she also may resent you for keeping her from sharing the baby experience with another woman. This could be a greater risk.

This is something he will have to work out. I worry about you being put off your own life unfolding. Try to get positive things going like exercise or yoga, working, school or whatever is in your life plan. Start to make other friends so you are not so centered on the one person. You sound awfully dependent on gf and afraid you might lose her.

People here at PC may also have a therapist to talk things out.

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