To get started, tell her yeah, a lot of it isnt her fault, but the way she acts isnt working for her. Its got to be about her.Obviously I havent met her, but my guess is Its highly unlikely (but not impossible), that youre going to get her to feel empathy for anyone else, if this is antisocial personality disorder.

I youcan get her to ook at it from a standpoint of whats good for her things may get better. Also, I have a feeling drugs are involved. Am I wrong?

There's only some much you can do. I know you want to help, but I would worry more about the kid. Sometimes by helping someone too much youre not reallyhelping. If she has to suffer all the consequnces of her actions she may try to find another strategy..