I absolutely hate it when anyone ( except perhaps my T who I kinda of pay to evaluate me!) feels they have the right to criticize my feelings or attitute. What gives them the audacity to think they can judge what's going on in my head? Perhaps if I did something egregious a friend might say that behavior was offensive but how I feel, they don't know. I have tried to come up with a list on paper of short responses cuz I always think of good stuff the next day! 'Thanks for sharing now let's talk about your attitude' has shut a lot of people up. A very sarcastic - so that's what u think has worked well for me. One sentence, no discussion. Sometimes just a nasty look & leaving works. We r under no obligation to explain to anyone anything- as if one of those "normal" people could understand anyway. A fellow abuse survivor will laugh and say yea maybe I'm crazy. If they think u come across as uncaring they r wrong. It's their mistake. People have a right to be wrong & even rude. We don't have to try & change them.When things happen and I don't react as expected by favorite line is 'well, it seemed like a good idea at the time'. Don't believe them. We have survived things they can't even imagine. We dissociate cuz we needed to to survive. They can't understand. A T told me from his knowledge, there were others who didn't survive. We r the lucky ones. So others can just keep their mouths shut.