I've been battling with the idea of "talking" about this with people so bear with me...

My partner and I have been together for a couple of years and got engaged this February. We have the wedding booked for July '16.

We'd been essentially 'friends with benefits' on and off for a couple of years before we eventually got together, so when we decided to make it 'official', we got pretty serious pretty quickly and we've always said how lucky we are that our relationship is so happy and easy.

We moved in together last September and things were still great and we adapted to cohabiting very quickly, without the teething problems we'd both experienced in previous relationships. We've always been good at communicating and laid out our expectations from the outset.

However... over the last month or so things have been strained for want of a better word. We've only had one actual fight (we never have fought much), but we seem to be constantly getting in each others way, bickering and just feeling a lot like we're just passing the time rather than enjoying things. I know that bickering is something that couples often just do, but things just dont feel right at the moment.

We've had a number of conversations on the subject, we both feel the same way, like we're going through the motions a bit. We've both reiterated how much we love each other, we definitely still want to get married and we want to get through this hump or whatever it is.

But I'm just terrified. One of the things that attracted me to him so much when we first met is how different to me he is. I overthink everything, I've suffered on and off for depression through my teens and most of my adult life (although less so in recent years). He's very carefree, he's basically always happy and even when he gets sad it passes very quickly, but now I look back over our relationship I feel like he's becoming more like me and generally much less happy. He used to really love his job and the more he talked about it, I couldnt understand why - it didnt sound to me like they treated him very well, and now I've planted this seed in his head, now he's been getting more stressed out by his work. I pushed so hard when we first got together that he had his head in the sand about things and it was important he saw the real picture, and now I cant think why. I'm scared I've made him change his outlook on life to a much more negative one and have made these cracks appear as a result.

I just dont know what to do, I dont know how to fix this.