Hi, Lady...You sound very much like I was thinkng when I finally met and married my husband (now ex of 11 years)...
Please don't kid yourself that you can marry someone who is a nice guy, and all will be well. It won't...I did that! and spent a very long unhappily married.
You are very young, and it sounds like you have a lot of creative interests in music art and writing....I say focus on those and let the men come as you pursue your interests.
Patty