Wants...You've really hit the nail on the head regarding men in my (our) age group! In fact...I've dated and even tried relationships with most of the "flawed" types you've described so accurately! I have a few to add to the "flawed" list: Health issues, as I know about this first hand from having spent two years as a nursemaid to a man who deceived me about his health condition; extreme stinginess with money after being burned in divorce (or maybe they were always that way); and adult children who watch dad's assets like hawks, not wanting a new woman to have access to it! The list could go on and one...
And, oh, I have to mention the double standard of appearance: a woman must be thin, fit and attractive even if the man is pot-bellied and bald! There are the "churchy" types and the barflies...neither of which I'd want anything to do with, nor have anything in common....
The list goes on.
Anyway, I just want to add that posting about this and getting such good feedback from all of you has helped me regain my centeredness!
Love and thanks!
Patty