That's awesome that you are doing what you want more often. I really struggle with that sometimes. I feel obliged to be at home when my BF is at home. Why? I have no idea. It just seems like the thing to do. He's definitely not pushing me to stay at home, I'm doing it to myself. And I do similar stuff with chores (when I do them, LOL), and then kind of resent my BF even though I'm the one who decided to do them

I also think it's okay to ask for what you want. If *you* want him to switch to a day shift, that's okay to verbalize. His wants can be prompted by your wants