It's NOT the baby food & it's NOT the cat food. Don't rationalize a problem away.....you need to deal with it before EVER making the relationship permanent into a marriage.

I met my H in college at the beginning of the year in September. We seemed to get along well but honestly, I didn't REALLY KNOW him (no we weren't living together but that's not the point.....)the thing is that in 3 months you haven't come across whatever led up to that behavior.....just like in the 8 months I hadn't come across the situation that caused the behavior in my fiance (at that time).

His issues were attitude issues & feeling superiority feelings because of his IQ & feeling that he should be owed things that he hadn't truly earned. I saw the red flags & actually told my mother I wanted to call off the wedding......but she rationalized my out of stopping the wedding & I rationalized away his behavior (telling myself that yes, he would mature with time & with required responsibility).

Stupidly I went through with the wedding......& stupidly, I stuck around for 33 years.....all but the last 13, I was escaping away into my engineering career.....but the last 13, I ended up financially TRAPPED in that bad marriage.....& it was the red flag problems that continually haunted the marriage all those years. I finally left 8 years ago. Moved 2100 miles away....the BEST THING I ever did & regretted the day that I didn't listen to those red flags.

If you don't deal with this problem & you continue on thinking it will just go away......you could end up as sorry as I was for having gone through with a marriage that I knew had serious problems in it.

We did marriage counseling after my pdoc refused to allow me to go home to my H after one of my psych hospitalizations....but no one ever tied my situational mental illness to the bad marriage, only to the loss of my career....but it was my career that allowed me to tolerate the marriage because I was NEVER home.