i am sorry too... i have occasionally wondered about the match i have... but if the match is really bad, and it sounds like it is, then you need to find someone else. i am sorry i don't know your history of moving through so many T's... it sounds very sad and unfortunate.

i hope you find someone soon. i wish there was a better way to find a T... i shopped the yellow pages... seems unfair for something so intimate. There should be some sort of service which could help match client to T... maybe like those internet dating services who guarantee to find your soul mate.