After my marriage of 20+ years, I dated some men who were unable to support themselves. They sucked me dry financially and emotionally. In truth, that was their agenda, so women who meet a man who is unemployed, or disabled, may see red flags immediately. I didn't and am now much less financially stable because of my naïve feelings of love. Many independent women see the red flags immediately; I did not.

On the other hand, there are women who seem to have the talent for extruding everything from a man without contributing anything financially. These are the women who get the expensive jewelry, have everything paid for them, never contributing one red cent. I lacked that ability, and never wanted to be like that. I always marveled at women who did that. But, I always felt it important to pull my own weight financially. I am generous and giving, and many men took advantage of that. It's a real rat race dating world out there, especially for those older singles.

To Walking Man, I would say it will be hard for you to meet a woman who has no financial expectations. There are women out there, like myself, who will go into a relationship open minded, seeking love, but I fear they are few and far between.

If you do date someone, please be upfront from the beginning about your situation. If the relationship develops despite your limitations, then it is real.