I have a dear friend who lost his wife about 4 years ago. He started dating about a year afterwards & he met this wonderful lady. I liked her from the beginning & their relationship grew. We have a very close church family & all were supportive though several thought it was "too soon" for him to get remarried. I have grown to know his new wife as a very dear friend of mine now.

I don't think there is a real time span after the first year of going through the grief & getting back to some sort of alone life style that becomes the NEW normal.......but after that point, if there is someone who really would enjoy being with.....go for it.

It's a totally individual thing & there is NO RIGHT OR WRONG timing. Some people aren't meant to be alone while there are others of us who wouldn't remarry EVER.....or at least would have to be hit over the head with a baseball bat to make us realize that yes, this guy is really the right person.

Alone can definitely become a way of life that one comes to enjoy especially if the marriage wasn't a good one. It does seem that guys especially who have been in a good marriage are more open to getting married again after the death of a spouse.