It's called infatuation, not love. You can't have LOVE without truly knowing someone & even then unless there is a continual being together & seeing how their real behavior is with others & in life situations, you can't even know the person to know if you can truly ever love them.

When I was going into high school (back in 1967), I met this really sweet guy on my train trip from California back to Kansas...he was going all the way back to his home in Ohio. We connected & wrote for 3 years. He came out to California in my senior year of high school & we reconnected. I was SURE IT WAS LOVE.....but he went back to Ohio & I continued to live in Calif. Letters, thinking....wow, love, even talking about getting married when we could finally get together.

LOL....I got a dear John (& yes, his name really was John) letter from him telling me that he found a girl & was getting married that summer (right out of high school).....that was when I realized that .....NO, you can't possibly KNOW someone even with a few meetings because you REALLY DON'T know them. It was at that point in my life that I determined I needed to take care of myself & not get involved with anyone until I got my own life together.

Thought I had....LOL....I dated a lot of guys just as friends & then met this guy when I transferred to the 4 year university. Met him in September. Was rather attracted to him but more because of his intelligence & we had programming major in common. We actually decided that marriage might be ok. He graduated that next spring & it was right after that I saw things in him that hit me as HUGE red flags & I actually told my mother I wanted to call off the wedding....but got talked out of it.......was sorry for 33 years that I didn't listen to my gut feeling.....so even when you are with a person, you have to beware of red flags & issues that might cause relationship problems.

Honestly, there was NO LOVE at all in any of those relationships....it was just infatuation & wishful thinking that the relationship would turn out to be what a loving relationship should be.....you can't feel LOVE until you really KNOW the person & then all the red flags have an impact on whether it's true love or not also & they can make a huge difference as to whether REAL LOVE can ever grow because LOVE is something that grows out of respect for each other & knowing each other & the things that cause respect or not to be there can either cause LOVE to grow, or tear down what love might be there or cause LOVE to never grow in the first place out of the initial infatuation.