Hey,
I think you should do whatever the hell you want. Why? Because it's your life!

I also think that getting out there would be good for you, and sometimes it can help you realize whether you are "ready" or not.

Don't let others put a time-frame on your happiness, as they aren't the ones living your life. You are. And you are in total control.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife, and I wish you the best.