Hi Terry,

What kept me in the relationship so long was the fact that I did love him very much for many years, plus we had a child, and I didn't want to break up the family. It wasn't until our daughter moved out that I began ending the relationship. I went about it all wrong, I had an affair but that gave me the courage to do what I have done.

Yes, he was functional, he worked. He is the type of person when he does something he goes "all out" including the drinking.

He continues to drink to this day.

Read my post, listed under relationships, it is titled ***tired of FEELING STUCK**** Can't move forward or go back.

I am trying so hard to be the person that I used to be. Being with someone who drinks or uses drugs affects you so much, and you don't even realize it until it is too late.

Good luck to you and I hope you find your answers. I know how disappointed you feel, it gets old feeling it over and over, all the broken promises.