My dad gave me good advice once, he said "You just need to get angry." in response to when I was telling him how scared, nervous, and anxious I was. He said "You have every right to be on this planet as anyone else. You have every right to be here. Get angry and don't take it anymore." He said this really helped him when he was younger. Now, this doesn't mean get angry at other people of course. It just means you finally take a stand and accept nothing less than happiness for yourself. And next time you feel like you're getting too needy in a relationship, then pull back. You have the power to do that. Treat others in a relationship the way you would like to be treated. Be the person you would want to date, before you date someone else. Because you're in a relationship with yourself, first and foremost.