Texting is always problematic because it's rife with opportunity got misinterpretation. It's also true that in the world of texting actions don't always speak louder than words- at least not unu you know for sure what his actions were. Right now you're coming to your own conclusions and are refusing to get clarification by big talking to him about it. It's very possible he didn't get the text. Or the sound was off and he didn't hear the text notification. People miss texts all the time and for this reason it's not meant for emergencies or emotionally charged content. In my experience, people in such situations simply say "did you get my text? I'm thinking you didn't because I didn't hear back". The person on the other end then explains. This is not an unusual or unkind thing to say to someone. It's actually kinder to do so since it allows them a time to explain, rather than let you make assumptions that are negative. Avoiding the topic is not being nice and sweet and saving him hurt (which is not what therapy is about anyway). Why it really is is something for you to hide behind so you can avoid the anxiety these conversations cause you. I'd try to be honest with yourself and know that you're not saving your T from hurt. You're thinking you are but really this is just the stuff of human interaction ad happens to everyone all they time. Its your choice but avoidance only hurts you- it has no impact on your T. This is your therapy and the point is to use it in a way that is hopefully productive for you.