I agree with Lauzila on the texting possibilities. I'm usually really busy, so when someone texts, and my phone notifies me, I let it sit. And then when I go to use my phone for something else, I put off reading or replying to the text and then forget about it. Also, if I happen to reply, the other person seems to think I'm available and replies right back and it becomes a gooey thing I that's hard to extract from. And that's with non-therapists. (Tho I talked to my therapist about it--to complain--and she feels the same way, so we're on the same page with it.)

That's just to say that there's no way to know why he doesn't respond after the first or second time. My guess is that it's a time and availability issue. Everyone has their own internal boundaries around texting. Some people have a lot of time for it and it's a regular part of their life. Others, like me, see it as expendable.

I completely understand your fears and anxiety, so please don't think I'm missing your point here, that it takes a lot for you to reach out and he wasn't there. I'm just trying to suggest that texting isn't the best way to get support--for a lot of reasons you (and he) can't control.