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Originally Posted by Leah123
You're really putting a lot on him!
"He chose to not even care." (Many other interpretations like this in previous posts too.) One thing I do is focus on how I feel instead of mind-reading, it helps me get what I need, something my T helped reinforce/teach me. Like, "I feel abandoned," instead of "you abandoned me" When I told her that stuff, instead of blaming her, then she didn't feel hurt at all, and she gave me what I wanted
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I know you don't want him to feel bad, but I think you still need to talk about how it made you feel. I agree with Leah that you should talk about it saying how it made you feel, rather than saying he did something to hurt you. I don't like making people feel bad either, but the couple times I've been upset with my T or marriage counselor, I've found it's been better to talk about it with them, no matter how difficult.