My mom and I got along best when we had as little to do with each other as possible. I loved her, but I couldn't stand to be around her. She passed away recently, and I was more relieved than in grief. She was selfish and manipulative (probably narcissist, but nothing official on that) ... and the epiphany for me was realizing that it had nothing to do with me. It left me free to be able to love her without being in the position where I had to be approved by her. When I moved out of my parents home, it was weeks before I could stop saying constantly to myself, "why didn't you move out sooner?" So consider the possibilty your deadline is really necessary, and whether you can get out sooner. It may improve things for you ... and if not, at least you aren't subject to it as much.