Mine didn't try for years. When I finally started talking to them again, they said that I had made it clear that I wanted to be left alone. Well, maybe after they threatened to follow me and run my life forever. It's hard (for them, and for us) to learn the balance. I don't know about you, but I didn't wanted to be smothered anymore, but I didn't want to be abandoned either. I wanted them to care about me *and* to let me have a life of my own. I guess they didn't know how to do both. I've been away from my parents for half of my life now (19 years), and it gets better, but there is still a hole there, and trying to fill the whole feels dangerous like it might be a trap. Is that how it feels for you too?