Some fabulous advice I got before I started dating my husband was this:

Choose to love the person for who they are right now. If they never change between now and when you die, could you live with it? Getting married and believing you can change the things you don't like about someone is a sure-fire way to end up with some serious relationship problems.

That being said, sometimes people need encouragement because they aren't sure how to get there on their own. My husband had never been around a healthy marriage. He is still learning tools to help him in our relationship. I remind myself that I am being supportive of him as I give him time to learn new habits. Sometimes just putting things in perspective helps.

When I was younger (like.... 7 years ago or so) I was desperate to find the love of my life, settle down, and start a life together. Looking back, I think I should have focused more on learning how to be a good partner before I jumped into relationships.

I hope this helps!!