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Originally Posted by hopeless85
I have a 20 year old son who suffers from social anxiety, anxiety and depression. He goes to college and takes extra classes so he can graduate early to leave the town we live in because he hates everyone and wants no one to see him. He won't go outside or even do anything in our area. He finally got a job after 2 years and it is on the weekends for 12 hours shifts. He drives an hour to and from just so he could be at a place where no one knows him.... He is seeing a therapist for his anxiety and alcohol problem. He binge drinks to a very dangerous point and has been very lucky to make it through. I am at a loss. He was doing well for about 4 weeks and now has relapsed. Today he got up for work like normal and then said he could not find his hat and was going to call off. I ended up finding another one right like it and he left. Later I found the one he was looking for purposely hidden in the back of a closet! So he intentionally tried to fool me this morning. Later he text me that he hates it and wanted to quit. I said he had to give a notice first because it isn't right to quit. I don't know if I did the right thing or not. Forcing him in a situation that makes him upset and then turn to booze.... I am to the point that I actually don't even want to live anymore. I am tired of the worrying if my son will ever be normal and ever be sober. He refuses to go to outpatient or inpatient rehab and says as long as he doesn't take the first sip of alcohol he is fine..... I am dreading when he turns 21!
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Really sorry to hear these things. My son exhibits a lot of similar behavior especially the excuses not to go to work. He'll say I'm sick or the other people there don't do their jobs, etc etc. The excuses sometimes don't even make any sense. I'm not sure what drives the behavior but I've actually heard he is a good worker (when he shows up). I don't want him to be without a car and I can give him some credit, he tends to crash at other peoples houses so he doesn't drive drunk. The problem is, many of his friends are in similar places in life so there is really no positive reinforcement from them (some of them even encourage him to call off) My son went to a counselor, but slept through his second appointment. I have no idea if he ever scheduled another.