Polyamory is a tricky thing, and it certaintly doesn't work for everyone. My fiancé and I swing but we are not poly, however I have known quite a few people who are. One thing I think people who are in these types of relationships won't always acknowledge is that there is always going to be one relationship out of the multiple that is stronger than the other, most often the two people who have been together the longest. So even if every intention is made for all the relationships to be equal it doesn't always work out that way. That can end up with one of the partners feeling left out.

If you've ever had a problem with jealousy then I would say a poly relationship isn't a very good idea. You would be setting yourself up to feel rejected and hurt. Poly relationships from what my friends have told me take a ton of work more than twice the work of a regular relationship because of the dynamic of multiple people being involved. Think of it in terms of how you would feel if you had to share a previous boyfriend / husband with another woman. How hard would it have been? Would you have been jealous? Also think beyond physical and sexual attractiveness.mdomyou like who these people are on the inside enough to love them hou equally? Do you have enough in common with both of them? With most poly couples I know it's not threesomes all the time it's taking turns two at a time having sex. Would it bother you if the other two had sex and you were left out? There are so many things to think about. Which is why even though I've been invited into a poly relationship, I could never do it. Sex with others without attachment is one thing, but entering a relationship with multiple people where emotions and husband / wife dynamics are involved is a whole other thing I would never be prepare for.

Maybe some others have some opinions too, I hope his has helped you some. Good luck.