Have you tried sitting down with her and asking her what she wants from your relationship? This will require maturity. The first step is to ask yourself if you want this woman in your life, beside you, every step of the way, for the rest of your life.

Women can be weird. (So can men.) But it is true that most of us want a man who wants us and is willing to pursue us. I've spent time with men whose egos were so weak they could not bring themselves to ask me out. It brings out my mothering instinct. But that is not what I want in a husband. I want a strong partner for my life.

So, decide what you want - life partner, dates, or something else - then go ask her if that's what she wants, too.