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How me and my husband deal with our financial is our personal business. Different strokes for different folks, what work for me might not work for others or vice versa.
Me and my husband never argue about money because it all fair for both of us, there nothing tobe argue about.
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You never argue about ANYTHING....why would he argue with you about that either?
He may be going along with your way of doing that also? You already said in your first post:
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He works 2 jobs so his income is more than mine. He always offer to pay more on Rent/Bills because he makes more income. But I said No, I said I want to be fair, because we both bring in income. I also work, I have my own source of income.
I said I want to take turn pay Rent, and we split Bills to help each others. This month I pay rent, next month he pay rent. Grocery is this time I pay, next time he pay, etc...
I give him the look like he's not listening to his wife. He said alright, he let me have it my way as I insist. But he said that when he die he going to leave all his money to me anyway, this he said I have no choice, lol
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Sounds like you are almost forcing him to do it your way from the way you worded this.
In most states, money transfers from spouse to spouse in case of a death without probate. I only know of one situation & that was because they had a will but it had been written in a different state than the one they were living in when he died......& NOTHING goes to probate when there is a will.
Money IS a huge thing in a marriage because by keeping money separate completely, that's basically telling him that you aren't totally into the marriage because you don't feel safe having a joint account that you both put into....that doesn't mean that part of the budget isn't about giving each person their monthly money to do with what they want....but it means that you are both working together in a marriage, not You & me.....what you are doing with your money is the way roommates work......& maybe that's the signal you are giving him. You say you don't have money issues but he wouldn't have said what he said if he didn't think differently about it than you.