On another note...worried about the message (OK, messages--just two though!) I left for my marriage counselor after our session today. Transference is much more difficult to deal with in marriage than individual counseling. Hoping MC isn't annoyed with me. Just want more help from him in dealing with transference, but want to meet with him individually again (we did that a couple times when things first surfaced a few months ago). I felt so comforted when we talked on the phone Friday, then felt kinda alienated after today's session with my husband. Just hope he calls me back in the next day or two so I'm not twisting in the wind...